Every wedding is unique and special in its way. From the lively friends, family and guests to the breathtaking backdrops and unforgettable ambience, every element of a wedding should be celebrated in all its splendour.
However, that doesn’t mean there are no things you need to prepare for or factors which could spoil your celebration.
Your mom’s over-the-top outfit choice
Most women will go to great lengths to make their daughter’s wedding day the epitome of perfection. However, some will try to push the envelope a little too far. No matter how close a mother is to her daughter, she shouldn’t be trying to outdo the bride in terms of attire. Your mom might love you dearly, but you shouldn’t put her on a pedestal enough to make her believe she has to outdo you in every way possible.
You’re the bride, and you should be celebrated in your way. Let your mom know that you appreciate her efforts and still want her to wear a beautiful dress for your special day, but remember to keep things light and let her know that there are certain things she shouldn’t be trying to outdo. If you notice your mother is trying to outdo you, gently but firmly remind her that you don’t have to have the perfect wedding and that you still love her and appreciate her.
The inane song you’re forced to dance to
There is nothing more awkward than realizing that you have been forced to dance to an inane song at your reception. It may seem like the most practical thing to do, but it’s so off-putting that you’ll surely want to avoid it. When you call your venue and ask about the playlist, be sure to ask about the CD or online options as well.
An inane song makes for an awkward first dance as well as a less-than-perfect first dance. It can be a bit of a red flag if the DJ or your reception venue has a reputation for being a little cheesy or over-the-top. When it comes to the reception, the mood should be fun and laid-back, not cheesy. Avoid inane songs, and you’ll avoid an awkward and less-than-perfect first dance.
Too many guests
If you’ve invited a lot of people, there is nothing wrong with that. However, as your reception draws near, you might start to feel like you’ve invited too many guests. While there is no right or wrong amount of guests to have at your wedding, we recommend keeping the guest list around 120-150 people.
Too few and the reception may feel too intimate, while too many and it will feel like a party more suited for a club than a small reception. Remember that while your wedding day is a celebration of you and your fiancé, it should also be a celebration of your family, friends and loved ones. Don’t feel pressured to invite extra people, even if you want to invite them all.
You can always invite some of your guests to come to another event down the road, or you can invite fewer people to make them feel included. If you’re starting to feel like you’ve invited a little too many guests, take a breath and remind yourself that you can always invite fewer people in the future, or invite a few of your guests to another event.
You haven’t yet confirmed your officiant
There are a few things you should have done before your wedding date, including confirming the officiant, even if you’ve been officiating in your family’s traditions. There are many ways to get married, and while some may prefer having clergy perform the ceremony, others may prefer a non-religious ceremony.
If you’ve been performing the ceremony in your family’s traditions, you need to confirm that the person performing your ceremony is someone you want to marry you. It can be an awkward red flag if you’ve been performing your ceremonies, but you haven’t confirmed with the officiant that he or she will be performing your marriage ceremony.
Confirm the details with your officiant, including the date and time of the ceremony, the location and any other details you might have forgotten. If you’ve been performing the ceremony in your family’s traditions, but haven’t yet confirmed with the officiant that he or she will be performing your marriage ceremony, it’s a red flag that you should avoid.
You give away the bride and groomsman’s gifts too early
There is nothing wrong with giving away your groomsman’s gift before you do the same for the bride’s gift. However, you should keep in mind that the bride and groomsman’s gift should be revealed at the reception, not before.
It’s a sign that you’ve kept the gifts for too long, or you’ve forgotten about the importance of the gifts. You should make sure that the bride and groomsman’s gifts are revealed as soon as possible, and that your guests get to open them right after the ceremony. If you’ve kept the groomsman’s gift too long, or you’ve forgotten about the importance of the gifts, it’s a red flag that you should avoid.
You don’t have a backup plan for bad weather
While you may wish for a sunny and warm day, you might be surprised by the weather. If you’ve been planning the perfect wedding day and the day ends up being rainy or even drenched in rain, you may want to consider a backup plan.
While bad weather can seem frustrating, it’s still better than not having a backup plan. If you haven’t been planning for a rainy or even drenched day, it’s a red flag that you should avoid.
All in all, you just want the day to be perfect
If you want the wedding day to be perfect, you need to factor in the negative aspects of the day as well as the positive aspects. It’s easy to let the positive aspects of a day overshadow the negative aspects, but you should take care of both.
At the end of the day, as the bride, you’re the one who has to walk down the aisle, take the first steps down the aisle and say your vows. While you may want the day to be perfect, you should remember that it’s still an important day for your families, friends and loved ones as well. They’ll be celebrating with you, and they should be happy and excited.
Conclusion
The wedding day is a day that should be celebrated, but it is also a day that could have some red flags you need to be aware of. While some may seem silly to you, they could be serious issues for your loved ones. Make sure you don’t let these red flags sneak up on you, and you can enjoy the day without the worry of anything spoiling it.
